tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271893222326606837.post1167136719595108636..comments2023-12-05T19:37:24.036-05:00Comments on Well Rounded Birth Prep: Birth as seen by a childbirth educator's husbandSarah--Well Rounded Birth Prephttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00430583826211639431noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271893222326606837.post-65414809080097611252010-10-07T17:21:01.528-04:002010-10-07T17:21:01.528-04:00Sarah, I figured as much...I don't know how an...Sarah, I figured as much...I don't know how any guy just falls into a conversation with a chick he's not related to about her pregnancy... Let's hope this doctor she "trusts" shakes her confidence just enough to send her back to the email and back to your phone number.<br /><br />My bestfriend from highschool (whom I love dearly and is 1 of 9 kids...2 or 3 of them born at home) also "trusted her doctor". She ended up with a c-section and I think I was more upset over HER c-section than mine! Mostly b/c hers could have been avoided if she'd put a little more trust in my advice...and in her body. I wasn't telling her stuff to scare her, I wasn't even very extreme...but her MIL is a nurse. One of *those* nurses who believe in the unfailing ways of medicine & doctors. She did great in labor on her own - 7 cms in a few hours. Then a trip to the hospital, she was confined to bed...and she didn't progress any further. Her husband was talking to his mom as things were going on, "Okay mom, I'll tell her, yeah, the doctor said something about that...okay...we'll do that, too...Okay." Ugh. I have never liked her husband. And I like him less now. She looked to her husband for strength and he bowled her over with what his momma suggested. Blah. I feel like I should mourn or grieve over things like that.Maeganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842948557446248688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271893222326606837.post-68574394912754518212010-10-07T00:41:07.352-04:002010-10-07T00:41:07.352-04:00Haha, Sarah! Loved the last comment! I can so re...Haha, Sarah! Loved the last comment! I can so relate in that my hubby is always giving his coworkers my phone number and telling them that I teach childbirth classes (he doesn't usually go much beyond that, except to say that we were so glad we took the classes we did).<br /><br />And, like you, we both hold our breath and hope that the people we know (who it seems are trying to stay as *in the dark* as possible) will come out unscathed. Unfortunately, this is not the case the majority of the time. And as you can probably attest to, the scathing is usually major abdominal surgery. Oh, and the *emergency* kind, of course :).Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15498715600254435346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271893222326606837.post-30034172153480925672010-10-05T22:56:03.316-04:002010-10-05T22:56:03.316-04:00For what it's worth, DH sent me the email *aft...For what it's worth, DH sent me the email *after* he sent it--I didn't know it existed before that. He didn't consult me. But I can guarantee that it wouldn't have "come up in conversation" w/ this momma in a way that would allow hint-dropping & subtlety. There's no subtle way for a man to give pregnancy & birth advice, anyway. :-)Sarah--Well Rounded Birth Prephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00430583826211639431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271893222326606837.post-74547975483936147932010-10-05T21:03:47.588-04:002010-10-05T21:03:47.588-04:00Eeeep! That is sticking his neck out quite a bit....Eeeep! That is sticking his neck out quite a bit. I used to sort of have that way of dealing with people...The problem is...he's really suggesting to this woman that she's uneducated when she probably thinks she IS very educated, or doesn't need to be b/c she "trusts" her doctor.<br /><br />What I do now...and it seems to be working a little better or at least getting more responses is, instead of saying, "I'm telling you this b/c I care & you don't know any better" I will ask them a question *when they bring it up*.<br /><br />Them - Oh, I'm having an ultrasound next week!<br />Me - Really? Is the doctor concerned with your baby?<br />Them - Oh no, this is just routine, but I'm so excited, I'll get to see the baby for the first time.<br />Me - I thought U/S was only for emergencies b/c early U/S has been linked to miscarriages...but I'm sure you're doctor will discuss it with you...or you could ask them about it when you go next week.<br /><br />It *sounds* kind of extreme...but then they go home & google like crazy and I might even get an email, text, or phonecall later to go, "Heeey, ya know when you told me that thing about the U/S...can you explain what you're talking about?" Anyone who comes back with questions say they bring it up to their doctor...and get a sputtering answer about, "Well, we need to do this that or the other thing." Some moms go ahead with the ultrasound...but at LEAST they knew they were headed into a risk. And at least they questioned their doctor.Maeganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842948557446248688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271893222326606837.post-19602362309130072532010-10-05T20:52:15.998-04:002010-10-05T20:52:15.998-04:00WOW! This is so awesome! Kudos to Rick for believi...WOW! This is so awesome! Kudos to Rick for believing *with* you, obviously making a personal choice to do things differently for his wife and babies, and for caring enough to speak up to let his friend know of another way. As I have said, if you choose the medical line of care 100%, let it be an informed choice, not a surrender!Jennifer Stewarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06815758786703975248noreply@blogger.com